Sex, Pleasure and Money with Wendy Petties

Yep.  They are connected.  Want to tap into more abundance now?  If you’re looking to bring in more of what lights you up, then kick back and get ready to grow!  This weeks podcast is going to share some simple yet powerful steps to bring in more pleasure, more money, and more abundance into your life, STAT.

Listen in as my guest Wendy Petties shares how you can have anything you dream of if you connect to pleasure and plan for abundance.

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Wendy Petties is a Dream Liberator. A Freedom Fighter for YOUR desires. She helps women reconnect with needs that they THINK are just wants.

In her signature program, Sexy Money she demonstrates that you can have anything you dream of if you connect to pleasure and plan for abundance.

Creator of the upcoming podcast, "Opinions, Orgasms & Opulence: Sex and Money Talk for Ordinary People", she uses her experiences as an MBA, Sexpert, and Psychologist to share her wisdom with all who will listen.

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Amanda Testa (00:01):

Hello, and welcome to the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast. I am your host, Amanda Testa. I am a Sex, Love and Relationship coach, and in this podcast, my guests and I talk sex love and relationships and everything that lights you up from the inside out. Welcome. Hello everyone. And welcome today. I am so thrilled to be diving into some juicy topics. We're going to be talking sex and money today. And I am thrilled for my guest, Wendy Petties. She has a signature program called Sexy Money, and she demonstrates you can have anything you dream of if you connect to pleasure and plan for abundance, I love this so much. She's also a dream liberator, a freedom fighter for your desires, and she helps women reconnect with needs that they think are just wants. So welcome so much Wendy, thank you for being here.

Wendy Petties (00:53):

Thank you so much for having me, I loved the way you just kind of put your whole juicy body into reading that like I can feel you and so you definitely are connected to your body. So thanks for having me.

Amanda Testa (01:05):

Yes. You know, well, this, you know, I love talking about sexuality on this podcast and all the things that help light women up. And I know, you know, that's one of the huge things it's so connected sex and money two taboo subjects. People never like to talk about and, you know, and how you're such a pleasure pioneer as well. So I'd love if you would share just a little bit more about you and your, you know, what gets you on this path, if you wouldn't mind sharing.

Wendy Petties (01:31):

So my mom says that it started as a little girl where I would re I was really connected with my body and listening to what I wanted to do and what I didn't want to do. So as a child, I would either have my arms out open, like, okay, you're okay. Or I would have my arms crossed like, no. And I was very clear on these things. As a child, I also would get very hot, physically hot and take my clothes off in the, in the stroller. And so people would run after her afterwards and see, you know, hand back a sock or my sweater or something. And I would say I hot, you know, so I've always kind of been this, you know, fully embodied person. But I think this venture started back in the eighties when I was hired for a program that had to do with HIV and AIDS.

Wendy Petties (02:23):

And it was a program for women of color to help them help save them because they were dying at disproportionate rates from HIV and AIDS from men. And so I was hired, I call myself the condom negotiator, but I was hired to go out and talk to them about getting their men to use condoms, you know, building that skill of being comfortable and talking. And I found out that a lot of these women were not even had not, we're not equating sex with pleasure. And I was fascinated by that fascinated. And so I began this quest to learn more about psychology and sexuality and women all while getting my MBA. So I have a very specialized MBA. I have these human lie detector skills because I learned about body language and all kinds of things there. I have a psychology background and I have a business degree and MBA, and I have this sex educator background. So I'm a sexpert and MBA. And like the human lie detector all rolled up in one, which brings us to here, where I put all of that together to help women to connect with their bodies. I know for sure, physiologically that orgasms are very important to women, but it's not just about sex. It's about pleasure in general, it's about making deliberate choices so that you can find pleasure and that leads you to be comfortable and confident and productive and creative so that you can have everything that you want.

Amanda Testa (03:58):

Yes. I love this. Thank you.

Wendy Petties (04:00):

You've given me the amen. I love it.

Amanda Testa (04:04):

Yeah. And so, you know, I do, I know you work with so many women who you say, like check all the boxes and like, feel like they've done all the things, but still are just missing something big. And I, you know, I can relate to that. And I know many of my clients too, so I'd love, you know, what do you see most often that you feel like is a problem that if you wish women could just like, they think they don't think they need it, but you know, if they could just open up to it, it could make a huge world of difference. I'd love to hear you share about that.

Wendy Petties (04:31):

I think it just goes back to, you know, pleasure in general. Like they think that it's something that they have to really plan and it has to be deliberate. Like I'm going to get a massage, but you can have that experience every day. Cause I'm assuming that everybody takes a shower. For example, everybody takes a shower now in the pandemic every day, we don't take a shower like, or it's just me, right. It's just me. But we get clean somehow. And the difference between rushing through a shower, you know, like to just get the shower done and spending even five minutes in the shower, actually touching your skin with the soap, smelling the soap, using something that feels good to your skin, wrapping the towel around you, looking at yourself in the mirror. Like it takes the same amount of time and it can change your whole outlook and change your whole perspective. But they think they don't need it or they think they don't have time for it. So that I think it's deliberate choices for pleasure.

Amanda Testa (05:37):

Yes. That intention is so huge. I love the shower practice because it it's so simple, but yet, you know, you're taking things you're already doing and put that intention behind it. Yes, yes. Yeah. Yeah. And so I'm curious too, from the money aspect, like where do you feel like this comes into the picture and why do you think they're so tied together? I think that

Wendy Petties (05:58):

We, as women are conditioned to just kind of accept whatever we, we get, you know, and that's, that's in a good way. You know what I mean? Like that's, that's the best part that we have. You know, there are people who are taught to not accept anything or not even want anything, but, but in overall I think women are taught, you know, like be, be happy with what you have, you know, and they're not taught about abundance and that you can have everything that you want and everything that you desire. So it's all tied together because the better you feel about yourself and your body and are connected and feel like I'm worth, you know, the dollar 50 soap, you know, not just the 99 cents soap, I am making a choice to get this soap. It smells really good. I'm making a choice to, you know, not just wear my flip flops around the house, cause they're really not comfortable and I could fall, but, but that's what I have right now, you know, to, to get something that feels good when you slip your feet in the more we are training ourselves to up that kind of consciousness, the more we affect abundance, the more we attract abundance, the more we go for things that we normally wouldn't.

Wendy Petties (07:15):

So it's all tied together. I have seen it happen over and over and over again.

Amanda Testa (07:20):

Yeah. That, that cracks me up about the flip flops, because I was just saying last night, how I am so grateful to have worked from home for so long, because I just remember back in the corporate days of wearing shoes that would kill my feet and how my feet were so jacked up my toes, everything. And I'm like, my feet are like different feet.

Wendy Petties (07:38):

What a great thought. I mean, that, that, that is such a key. I mean, how many listeners are, you know, a little grateful, you know, for being at home and being like, I'm sitting at my desk right now and I don't have any shoes on, cause I'm much more comfortable either being barefoot or my feet in the sand or the water. That's where I want to be. But when I do put on shoes, if they're uncomfortable, I take them off and I don't just take them off so I can wear them next time. Oh, I won't wear that today. Like they go in the bag to be donated so that somebody else who has different feet than I do can have them.

Amanda Testa (08:17):

I think that is such a huge, like little simple way to tap into pleasure, right there, like, think about what you're wearing and things that are uncomfortable or that are like binding or that are not comfortable. It's like, why am I wearing this? Is there something that would make me feel better or that I would enjoy like the, the way the touch of the material feels on my skin or all those things.

Wendy Petties (08:37):

And there's all kinds of examples. I mean, I do an exercise in my program. You talked about Sexy Money to do an exercise about like, where are you playing small and where are you playing poor? And it is eye opening, eye opening because you know, you there's prompts for it. So there's things like your clothing, there's things like the food you eat, you know? And, and we're not necessarily talking about money, but we are talking about money too, you know, like yes, organic food costs more than burger King. Absolutely. But if you go to Burger King, you don't have to order off the happy meal, which I think I'm mixing, mixing food metaphors, but do you know what I mean? Like you can say, you know, you know, what can I have water instead? You know, those simple things that people don't think about, you can say, you know, I would rather, you know, I just want it this way.

Wendy Petties (09:37):

You know, you can practice upping your game, you know, with the things that you eat with the people that are around you. Is there somebody who, who, who doesn't encourage you so much or who says things to keep you small? You know, when you're really excited about something, do they say, Oh, well, you know, I mean, I can do that too. Or do they say, you know, Oh, well, that's great. Do they even listen to you? You have to think about those things too. You know? And, and it's, it's just an awareness exercise so that you can tune this muscle, you know, and you can get closer to having, you know, the juicy things that you really want.

Amanda Testa (10:17):

I love that perspective. I'm curious if it's okay to share, if there's any other ways, what are some other ways that you see women playing poor, that they might not even be aware of?

Wendy Petties (10:26):

Ah, well, you brought up the clothing that I find a lot, you know, people wearing things that don't feel good or that they think they should be wearing, you know, the high heels, you know, how many times have we come in the house and immediately taken off our bra?

Amanda Testa (10:42):

Another reason I love, being home

Wendy Petties (10:46):

We don't even have to wear a bra if we don't want to, you know, but, but we, we have done that and bras are not inherently uncomfortable, but we have not taken the time to get fitted, which incidentally is free just for the record. It's free. Okay. You can go to a high end, fancy smancy place and have a bra fitting and you don't have to buy anything. You can maybe splurge on one bra and that, and feel how it's supposed to fit and look at how you, how it's supposed to look. You know, it's a big difference. It's an experience. And then you can go online and buy that bra for half price. Let me tell ya, okay. And I'm not saying like abundance, I think abundance is a mindset. I don't pay full price for things, but I have the money to buy it if I want it. You know, that's what I'm talking about. I think the other thing that we need to think about, you know, in terms of this, you know, areas where people often miss the mark is in their space, their space. So people listening may have, you know, we've all been in here since March, you know, so that's two, four, six months. And there are probably things in your house that are getting on your damn nerves.

Amanda Testa (12:11):

Okay.

Wendy Petties (12:12):

That the way the chair, the chair is, or what's behind you for the hundreds of zoom meetings or, you know, or we have to deal with people who are in the house all the time with us. And so being frustrated by the noise or the interruptions, when a simple tweak of when you see the baseball cap on the door, please know that I'm doing X, Y, Z, or a check in, in the morning that says, okay, what do you have to do? This is what I have to do. And this is what I need from you. Or could you please do X, Y, Z, you know, these things are empowering and calming so that you're not fretting about this and you're not stressing about it. So that's another area where I think that people don't, don't really, aren't really making conscious choices and that you could be playing poor or playing small.

Amanda Testa (13:19):

Right? Yeah. It's interesting. I think just the other day I was walking around the house, like making a list of all the things I wanted to get repaired. Just little things that you don't pay attention to. It's like this one drawer that always sticks, or the door knob that falls off like random things. Like if I could get this fixed, I would feel so much better. And the other thing too, I wanted to loop back to you for a second. You mentioned about like the lingerie and getting fitted and what I, you know, one of the things too, I think I've found is oftentimes I know for myself as women putting ourselves last on the list of everyone who else needs things like as an I'm a mom too. So it's like, who gets the new clothes, not me and all this and that, but realizing sometimes when you invest in something that maybe is more than you would normally spend, like a nice bra, it lasts forever versus like a target bra. That's going to fall apart after a few wearings.

Wendy Petties (14:07):

And be uncomfortable? And you're going to want to pull off through your sleeve. Cause we've all done that, right. We've all unhooked it in the back and pulled it out right through our sleeve, not even taking your shirt off. Cause it's so uncomfortable.

Amanda Testa (14:18):

And I mean there's and every now and then yes, target bras are fine, but I just like once and the other thing too, to speak to laundry, cause I thought this was funny to loop back to is cause you know, I think a lot of people have that in their mind of like what sexy is and that it means they have to wear like the pushup bra and the like, you know, whatever it might be. And granted I do love lingerie, so don't get me wrong, but it's creating your own definition of what you feel beautiful and what you feel,sexy in.

Wendy Petties (14:41):

Those links and feeling it from the inside out. I also do an exercise that I'm going to do with you right now. Okay. And so listeners can it too. So if I said to you, Amanda, I want you to channel your sexy feel as juicy as you can. Now, now express that with your face. Yes. I looking at you right now, but I can feel you and I know you're squirming in your seat and I can also feel it in my body because you're sending it back to me. Okay. You can turn that on at any time and it calms your body. It calms your central nervous system. And it's not about lingerie. It's not about high heels and a whip. You know, to me, it's about just channeling. What makes you feel sexy? It could be the lighting on your skin. It could be, you know, touching your arm like your, your whole body has shifted.

Wendy Petties (15:51):

Just thinking about that. And I would, I would bet that people who actually are doing it with us, we're sending this energy all over the place. We're feeling juicy and yummy. And it is a scientific fact that if we can turn that on, it doesn't even have to go to full orgasm, but just turning yourself on. When we get off of this call, you will be ready to do whatever you have to do. You will be more creative, more productive, you will be jazzed up clear focused. It's just, it's the nature of our bodies that we don't use to the full extent.

Amanda Testa (16:26):

Oh my gosh. I feel like we just, most people just scratch the surface of what we're capable of in our body. And like you're talking that energy, that sexy energy, that's our life force energy. It's so delicious. And I feel, that's why I love sharing this podcast. And I think it's so key for women to just be aware that we're, this is nothing we're ever taught. I mean, some women are, but very few,

Wendy Petties (16:48):

Very few. And I always say that there's things that we were taught that we should unlearn right now, there are things that we were never taught that we need to learn. And there's always questions. We always should question whatever we think we think or think that we know we should always question and by question it doesn't, it doesn't have to be this energy of, you know, well, I don't know if I believe that or whatever, it just kind of ask yourself, how do I really feel about that? How do, what do I really think about that? That's the questioning. That's just like checking in with yourself. That's all.

Amanda Testa (17:21):

I love that. I have another question for you just to loop back to around that, you know, that I bet that MBA and embodiment exercise, you just took us through of connecting to that sexy inside of you. And I'm curious if you have maybe another favorite tip to help women connect to that inside of them.

Wendy Petties (17:39):

Hi. The other thing that I have done is when we were doing live events, you know, you remember that, you know, when we were in a room that we could actually put our arms around people, I call it the tail, the tail. So when you are outside and we could do this too now, because we do get to go outside now, wherever you are in the world, we can go outside. And it's a really fun kind of thing. It's like, you know, going back to lingerie and underwear, like when you have sexy panties on you walk differently. Cause you know, whoo. You know, okay, so this is about your tail. So if you think about your hips and your butt and you know that central area there, think about what kind of tail would you have if you had a tail and it could be any, it could be a different tail all the time.

Wendy Petties (18:29):

But if you have a bunny tail that walk that you walk is a little different, if you have a dragon tail, that walk is a little different and, and just, if you're ever feeling down, you can put that tail on and just kind of put a little pep in your step, you know, think about what kind of tail you have attached to your little cute little butt or your big butt or your hippy butt or your whatever kind of, butt, and, and use that. That's just another juicy connection area. Especially if you're going to ask for something or you're going to go after something or, you know, like something surrounding money or abundance, you know, or you're going to buy something like, it'll just juice you up really quickly and have you really connected to that area of your body so that you can feel, you know, unstoppable.

Wendy Petties (19:19):

That's an awesome visual. The first thing that popped into my mind, you said that was like a leopard tail. Yeah. Yeah. I don't wear that today. Oh, I love it. Yeah. Yeah. It's got your leopard tail on. Yes. Oh, I love it. I love it. This is part it's like having fun with it. You know, we need to have more fun. Yeah. Just less. I know I do. Yes. And yes, we do need to have more fun and everything is not fun all the time. So we need to be connected with our bodies enough so that we can weather the storm when it's not so good. You know, this is about filling yourself up so that when it hits the fan or you think it has, you can still stand, stand tall and stale the crowd and be connected.

Amanda Testa (20:11):

All of that, you know, that's, that's what this is about fully embracing the spectrum of all the emotions and everything, because you know, it is true. The more we allow ourselves to fully embody a rage in our grief or our sadness, or, you know, really when we think about the state of the world, it's crushing. And so, but allowing that full feeling and then knowing the more you feel, all those feelings then too, you can feel every feeling, even like the quote unquote positive ones, like joy and Pleasure.

Wendy Petties (20:43):

Agree with you. Absolutely. I do not feelings as wrong or right. I, they just are. And so you have to be able to feel everything. And part of this is getting connected to your body so that you can identify what you're feeling for real, for real. Because the other thing that I noticed with a lot of my clients is when they start with me, I say, Oh, how you doing today? And they go fine. I'm okay. And they're not, but there's a couple things.

Wendy Petties (21:13):

One is a lot of people ask and don't really care how you're really feeling. So we've been conditioned to not tell the truth. We've been conditioned to just ask, you know, to just answer regardless, because we think people don't care anyway. And then I'm saying, well, who are you around that doesn't really care? And would ask you a question. I mean, it's not, you know, even the person where you buy your newspaper, you know, like assume that they really care and temperate with the appropriate response for them, but you can own it. I'm feeling delicious today or not so great today. You know, got some things on my mind, how are you very different energy from I'm fine. Which is a lie. Your body knows. Yeah.

Amanda Testa (22:00):

Yeah. And I think that's so key is that I love how you just said, even the guy you buy the paper from, whoever, you know, take it, like it's a true inquiry and how different that feels just even to let that settle in, like, that person really is asking you this because they care, maybe they don't, but you can take it on like yeah, they do care. Yeah. And then responding that way, that just opens up so much more connection.

Wendy Petties (22:24):

Yeah.

Amanda Testa (22:25):

Of that. And you know, I want to ask another question too, because I know we talked a little bit about this before we got on the air, but just, you know, right now when everything feels so heavy and there's so much just, that's not great in the world. And how do you think women can tap into pleasure when it feels sometimes so far out of reach?

Wendy Petties (22:42):

Ooh. Wow. Great question. I say one step at a time, one step at a time. So most of us have 12 zoom meetings a day. We have kids around and partners around and animals around and we may love all the noise and attention and we may not. And, and from day to day, we may love it. And you know, I mean we're exhausted or we're, you know, sleeping all the time. I mean, this is, this is unprecedented, but there are some things that we can do so we can go outside. We can go outside. We can even for two minutes, stick our head outside and listen, you can hear the birds. Now, at least I live in New York city. It has never been so quiet. We are seeing seagulls in my neighborhood seagull. Okay. Now I know where the water is, but I wouldn't think of my town as a water town, but there are seagulls walking around.

Wendy Petties (23:49):

And so I am stopping, looking remembering times that I've been to the beach. You know, I am listening for things. So using your five senses. That's another exercise is to see what you can see, seek out pleasure by using your eyes, by using your nose, by using your ears, you know, touch, taste, all of these things that we have at our disposal that are part of this wonderful body that we have been gifted with, find the pleasure in everything. And it, and that's a simple thing, you know, going outside or even looking outside, if you don't feel comfortable going outside, even looking outside, if you just open your window or your back door, or, you know, your eyes, even in your house and look for pleasure, it will tell you something either you will find it or you will not. And if you find it, appreciate it.

Wendy Petties (24:49):

And if you don't, then that will tell you that you need to find something and get something in there to be pleasurable. You know, that's what I mean and be gentle with yourself because it takes the, it takes effort that you may not have every day. Yeah. The gentle part is huge. Oh, absolutely. There are some days when I am on fire and I do this as a practice and I do this for a living and I am very connected to my body and to pleasure. And there's, I've had enough at 10 o'clock in the morning. Yeah, it is. And I have to be gentle with myself and accept that and not beat myself up and do listen to my body because some days it's okay. I just need to go and get in my bed. I have things to do. So I will say, all right, we're an hour or an hour for 15 minutes because I have a wonderful interview with Amanda today.

Wendy Petties (25:51):

You know what I mean today? I actually feel good. But, but I'm just saying, if I didn't, I'm going to honor what I said, I would do. I'm going to honor this wonderful, beautiful exchange that we're having here. I'm going to honor that. And I'm going to honor myself as well. And I think way too many women, like you would alluded to put themselves last, you know, like you said about the clothing, you know, think of you, you have a little girl. Yes. So think of how much you are teaching her. If you do something wonderful for yourself, some selfless, selfless, and selfish act of pleasure that you can demonstrate to her, how much better is Mommy going to be.

Amanda Testa (26:40):

I think that's so true. And it just makes me laugh because yesterday she has little dolls, they're called LOL dolls and she loves to play with them. And there's a little bathtub and she made a mini goddess bath for her LOLs and put Rose pedals in it from the backyard. And I was like, yes.

Wendy Petties (26:58):

So you are doing it by osmosis and you are doing it deliberately. And that's wonderful because this child knows about pleasure. And I don't know if you were taught this or you learned around the way along the way, but somehow you have taught this child. So think about how delicious she's going to be as she grows.

Amanda Testa (27:23):

I mean, that's a huge intention I have cause I was not raised that way. And I feel like that's why I've been on my own journey for the past 10 years of reclamation, you know? And I think I love that we, that you are sharing all these gems. And I'm curious too, if there's maybe one more tip that you could share around abundance or you know, this connection of like you've tapped into the pleasure, you're opening more to feeling good and appreciation. And then what, what about the abundance piece? Let's talk a little to the money part.

Wendy Petties (27:53):

Two things came to mind. So I'll probably share both if that's okay. The first thing is a real, tangible thing. I learned it. It's not my idea, but I learned it from Oprah, who is my friend in my head. I love her. And years ago she had someone on, I don't even remember who it was. Cause I attributed it to Oprah. Maybe it was a Yon, Levant Santu was talking about it. But talking about being respectful to money, there are a lot of people that would see a penny or a nickel or a dime on the ground and leave it there because it's, you know, it's not worth it to bend down. I don't believe that when it gets to a quarter, I think most people would pick it up. But being respectful of all money starts with acknowledging that it is money and that every little bit counts.

Wendy Petties (28:42):

So what we were taught and I've done this often is when you go to the store, I mean, we don't go to a lot of stores now, but when you used to go to the store and you'd get your change back, you know, they'd hand it to you in your hand, they'd say, thank you. They put the receipt in your hand or in the bag. And what would you do? You would crumple it up and stick it in your bag or your wallet or your purse or whatever. You just kind of do this and then drop it in there. Right? And then you wouldn't think about it until the next time when you had to buy something and you dig out all these ones and fives and tens and quarters and whatever, and you'd be pouring things out and whatever. And she just taught us the simple practice of honoring your money of taking the extra second to organize your money by denomination and fold it nice and neatly and say a thank you when you put it in your wallet, billfold, pocket, pocketbook, whatever purse, you know, whatever you call it. And it makes all the difference. It makes all the difference because the money is like, it's nice here. Huh? It's really cool here. It's nice here. I want to be in here and I'm going to tell all my friends We're gonna fill this thing.

Wendy Petties (29:57):

Yes, yes, yes. So that's a simple thing that you can do. And I talked about that in Sexy Money too. Absolutely great practice. The other practice is, cause I know that some people, cause I've heard it, some people are like, well, yeah, Wendy you have money. And I do have money, but I've done these things and that's why I have money. But if you don't have money, you may be thinking, well, you know, I have a list, energy around money and I don't have a lot of money and it's just a pain point. Whatever, what you need to do is be grateful for what you have. And the practice that we use there is not my practice either. I learned it from someone, I learned it from think, I learned it from Mary Hall who is a, an expert in, in kind of mindset stuff.

Wendy Petties (30:44):

And what she taught us to do was check your bank account every day, every day. And no matter what is in there, be grateful and say, thank you. And not more thankful because there's a hundred thousand dollars in there, then the hundred dollars, but grateful, grateful. We did this practice. I was in a group and we did this practice for 30 days and money kept showing up. It kept showing up. People would either say, Hey Wendy, you know, like, are you available? You know, I really like to talk to you about this. You know, like I have this budget and I'm trying to, you know, do it at the end of the fiscal year. And so, you know, I, I I've been thinking about you. And so could you do this for this amount of money or someone would, or, or rebate would come or a refund or somebody owed you money or you forgot to bill somebody for something being conscious about your money and grateful, attracts more. Yeah. And it is, you know, like I like to say, I'm not a real woo woo girl, but I believe in what I believe in. And I'm living proof that it works. Absolutely. Yes. So those are some of my tips for abundance.

Amanda Testa (32:04):

I love both of those. And I think that, you know, doing the daily, that's like you say, when something is appreciated and valued, of course it's going to want to stick around. Right. It's like, I don't know if I want to be scrunched up in the bottom of a bag, with seats and all kinds of gum wrappers and whatever dirt in the bottom of the purse,

Wendy Petties (32:22):

And Starbust Starburst. Right. You know, those candies. Yeah. Well,

Amanda Testa (32:28):

I, now, if, I mean, I just appreciate you so much sharing all of this and I'm curious if anyone wants to connect with you and learn more, what's the best way for them to find you?

Wendy Petties (32:38):

So there is couple of ways on Facebook. I have a group for women called Unstoppable Women with Big Dreams. And so feel free to join that. It's a, it's a wonderful group. And we talk about all these things and that's where you can find out what I'm doing next and all that stuff. I'm known as happy life coach, happy.life.coach on both Instagram and Facebook. And I also have a free gift, which we'll post the link for. I believe that you can have everything you want. And so I created a, a free gift called the Achieve your dream jumpstart. It's called the jumpstart because I believe in action. I don't think we have time to waste. This is the only life we have. And I don't, I believe you don't have time to wait. So there's three parts. There's a, an ebook, which is 22 pages.

Wendy Petties (33:25):

And it is all about mindset and really thinking about what you want. And there's some exercises in there. And then I pulled out the exercises and made a workbook about nine, 10 pages. And so if you just are a quick start and are like, let me just get to the meat and get some stuff done. That's what you can do. But there's also a video from me with a surprise, but I'll tell you already, I offer people a half hour have it all call where you can talk to me. I'll give you a couple of tips. One about abundance, one about pleasure. So, you know, we kind of talk a couple minutes about what's going on in your life, in those areas. I'll give you some quick tips and then, and then I'll tell you about how you can continue to work with me, if that should be a good fit. So I encourage you to take me up on it. It's a lot of fun and that's how you can find me, you know, that's where I hang out.

Amanda Testa (34:15):

And I'll make sure to put all that in the show notes as well. And I'm curious as we close, if maybe there's any last words of wisdom you'd like to share, or maybe a question that you wish that I would have asked that I didn't ask.

Wendy Petties (34:25):

No, your questions were amazing. I really, really have enjoyed this. I think my last bit of wisdom is just to, you know, to know that whatever stage you're at, wherever you are on this journey of, you know, pleasure and this journey of, of abundance, you know, sex and money, these are things that people don't normally talk about. I'm totally comfortable talking about them and you don't have to be me. You know, you're perfectly okay the way you are. But if there is something in your life that you think you might want to explore, this is, this is the, these are some of the ways that you can. And once you master these skills, you know, in the way that feels comfortable for you, because all the tips that I gave, some of them may feel comfortable. Some may feel hokey, you know, I have tons and tons and tons of things, but find what works for you and just get connected more connected to yourself, more connected to your body so that you can have everything that you desire because you deserve it. You know? And that's, that's the thing to remember. Cause we, weren't always taught that growing up that you can have and be, and do everything that you want. And you really can in the way, in the way that you want to.

Amanda Testa (35:41):

Oh, thank you so much, Wendy. And it's been a pleasure to talk with you today and thank you to everyone for listening. And we will look forward to seeing you next week. Thank you so much for listening to the find your feminine fire podcast. This is your host, Amanda Testa. And if you have felt a calling while listening to this podcast to take this work to a deeper level, this is your golden invitation. I invite you to reach out. You can contact www.amandatesta.com/activate And we can have a heart to heart to discuss more about how this work can transform your life. You can also join us on Facebook in my group Find Your Feminine Fire Group. And if you've enjoyed this podcast, please share with your friends, go to iTunes and give me a five star rating and a raving review. So I can connect with other amazing listeners like yourself. Thank you so much for being a part of the community.