Giving Yourself Permission To Have Fun
With your host Amanda Testa
Do you have a bossy voice inside your head that won't let you relax, have fun, or follow your whims UNLESS you've finished work, folded the laundry, etc etc etc??
In this episode I'm sharing how to allow yourself to have more fun, how to luxuriate in the small moments, how to hone your intuition for more inner trust, and how to let go of that mean inner voice.
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Amanda Testa (00:04):
Hello, this is your host Amanda Testa. And in today's podcast, I really want this to be a permission slip for you to do whatever the f#%8 you want to do. I just saw a post from a friend of mine. It was so inspiring to me because I feel like we push ourselves so hard sometimes. And I know for myself, I definitely am still recovering from the type A overachiever type of personality that I was raised to think was the end all be all. And I read this beautiful post from one of my Instagram friends. We actually met through a joint program we were doing with Kelly Diels, who I highly recommend her work. I love Kelly Diels. Anyways, her name is Jane Charlesworth and here is the post. You can follow her on Instagram at @Jane.Charlesworth this quote was just so great because I thought it is resonant, right?
Amanda Testa (01:10):
So this especially can pertain to you if you're an entrepreneur. But I think in any, in any instance, it's still important. We talk all the time about being our own bosses, but what if you don't need a boss at all? What if we ditch the whole idea of bosses, right? Because when you think of the word boss, what comes to mind for you? I mean, I am very grateful to have had an amazing, have had amazing bosses in my career. So I have a really good lived experience in which to, to pull from. And that's not the case for everyone. Cause I think if you think about boss, boss, oftentimes all kinds of things can come up. Right? Like bossy. What does that mean? It means like demanding, it means,ushort, it means,ucould possibly be someone who's taking advantage of you or,uI just think of a nine to five, remember how horrible that boss was or just how bosses can sometimes just be really hard on people.
Amanda Testa (02:07):
And what about we just let go of that word and try something different. Right. And so I was thinking about that and I was like, God, that is so true. Right? How hard can we be on ourselves about everything, right? Like I wanna be a good mom or I wanna go be a good parent or I wanna be a good partner. I wanna be a good friend. I wanna be good at my business. I wanna be good at my job. I wanna do all these things. And so we implement these really militant rules upon ourselves sometimes, which is actually gonna, oftentimes does the opposite of what we want it to do. Right. When we're so hard on ourselves. And we're so unflexible with ourselves, it can also stop us from really being in charge of our own clarity and choice and you know, feeling like we've gotta follow someone else's guidance all the time or that we don't know.
Amanda Testa (02:58):
And I really do believe we do know we have so much wisdom. Oftentimes we've just been disconnected from that in our own lives. And so how do we reconnect to our own intuition, our own ways? How do we create more clarity and choice with our lives? Right? Because oftentimes when we have had these experiences in our, where we have, I mean, it's, let's just be honest. I live in the us and it's a really big part of our culture is like you're raised to be successful, be the best make A's do good in school, do all the activities. So you can get into a good college, get into a good college, make good grades, get a good job, make money, all the things right. Have a family or don't. Ubut I feel like we gotta open up our definition of what success means and what that looks like and what,ua happy life looks like.
Amanda Testa (03:49):
Cuz it can look a million different ways. It doesn't have to look like we think it does. What if you're just happy with the way things are in your life. That is awesome. What if you can just say, you know what, I'm gonna give myself permission to enjoy whatever the I want for the next four days. Just right now, just make that decision. Guess what? For the next four days I'm gonna do what I wanna do. <Laugh> within reason, of course, you know? Right. you don't wanna hurt anyone. You want it to be in the highest good of all beings. Right. But I think of that, right? Because oftentimes, and this really, I love this one archetype from the ReBloom body of work and I'm also a certified Rebloom trauma resolution coach. That's from the work of Rachael Maddox and she has developed these seven archetypes, but they really, the intention is, is that as you grow back to your full in bloom self, where you are feeling worthy, where you have sovereign over your own experience, where you feel like you can fully express yourself, where you feel like you can trust your intuition, you have clarity, you have choice, you feel vital, you feel empowered, you know that you belong to yourself to this world, to, to your own being right.
Amanda Testa (04:52):
You can enjoy the pleasures of life and you can co-create to bring goodness to all. I love the Sage because really that's really around clarity and choice, having a clear sense of who you are, what you know, what you want and what your options are. You make decisions from a place of alignment with your values, right? Your embodied wisdom and your discernment. You're the validator of your experiences. You also seek healthy interpersonal validation, mirroring and reassurance, and you trust your experiences as true. You know, that your feelings, perspectives, and opinions matter, your clarity, empowers healthy choices. I feel like that's such a huge permission slip of knowing who you are, what you want. And you make decisions from that place from a place of alignment. And oftentimes in our lives, there are ways that we can have traumatic imprints from being our true number one manipulation control, right?
Amanda Testa (05:47):
Being Gaslight being denied, your experiences, being lied to, you know, having things, withhold it from you being shamed, you know, being monitored, like having super strict parents, perhaps like we, that constantly monitor everything that you did or, you know, having what you do be based on, you know, you be a certain way to get affection or feeling like your affection was withdrawn. If you weren't a certain way, you know, feeling guilt or you know, a lot of blaming feeling like you weren't listened to feeling that you were manipulated that you were controlled, right? Those that is the way that we can be have these imprints that affect how we show up. And it can show up in a couple of ways, right? One of the ways is kind of the hypo response, which is more of kind of feeling confused, feeling like you're blindly, following people, blindly trusting others constantly looking to be validated from others.
Amanda Testa (06:41):
Crippling self-doubt lack of personal moral code, right? You, you feel you're very drawn possibly to charismatic leaders or desire to be saved by someone who knows what's going on really not trusting your own own experience. And then the hyperresponsiveness is being hypervigilant, right? Not knowing who you can trust, feeling extremely skeptical about everything. You know, assuming that others are trying to just pull something over on you feeling really stubborn about doing things your own way. If you're being, being very controlling yourself, trying to control situations trying to control relationships playing games with people emotionally, right? Feeling like you are making up these stories of while things are out to get you, or, you know, really feeling hyper guarded, maybe isolating yourself because of fear. So, you know, these are ways that we can these traumatic imprints that we experience in our lives can show up in really stand in the way of our feelings of clarity, of feelings of choice.
Amanda Testa (07:44):
And so this is where we can do things to strengthen that Sage within us, right? Tuning in to what is your truth, even knowing what that is, what is it that you want, right? What are the boundaries that you need to support yourself? How can you express what you need? How can you create the environment that supports you in tuning into what it is you need, and then being able to make choices and take actions that are in alignment with what you need with your truth, right? Really honoring your own values, your own morality, your own ethics and sharing your truth and ways that can be heard that can be received.
Amanda Testa (08:28):
Right? So really knowing that you can trust your experience, you can trust what you are experiencing in your life to be true. You can trust your own knowledge, that it will guide you to what supports you. Right? You can trust your desires because they really are little guideposts on your path, right? What you want following those desires can really give you so much information about, is this really what I want? Or is it not, right? You, you tune into what you want and you, I love doing the exercise just for like 10 minutes, setting a timer and writing down all your desires. What is it that you want? What is it that I want? What is it that I want? And really just letting yourself go with that exercise. Because oftentimes when you do that, you can tune into what's beneath the wants, right? What is it that you truly need?
Amanda Testa (09:21):
And so you know, maybe it's, you know, I want a vacation or I want to have more money or I want to have a better relationship, or I wanna go to dinner with a friend or blah, blah, blah. Right. You're just writing down all the things you want. I wanna trip to Tahiti, digging in a little deeper about what's beneath that, right? So maybe if you're noticing a lot of travel or wanting to escape, like, what is it that you perhaps there are some needs that you're not speaking, right? Maybe you need to create more boundaries for yourself. So you can feel less burdened that you can feel less overwhelmed. Maybe you need to look in to see like what's beneath that. Right?
Amanda Testa (10:00):
So if there's a lot of escapism, then maybe it's, there's something that you need with regards to that, you know, needs. You're not letting yourself have not giving yourself the time and space to meet your needs. And granted all these things take time and practice. So it can be challenging to even tune into what you want. So many times I work with people who have no clue what they want, or it's so hard for them to connect to their desires because really we, we aren't often taught that, right. We're often taught, we please. We do, what's told of us. We do. What's asked of us, not whatever the we wanna do. <Laugh> and in some ways you wanna just follow that whim. Like what would this do for me? If I did just take singing lessons, for example, I really wanna take some singing lessons.
Amanda Testa (10:35):
I wanna have fun expressing myself more. So take singing lessons and see how that works out for you. Right. If it's loving it, if you're loving it, if you're feeling like you're, you're expressing yourself, you're, you're, you're, you're getting what you need from it. Then that's a great thing, right. Or maybe you try it and you're like, yeah, Nope, not for me. See, this is how we know what is our path and what is not by trying things and determining, does this feel in alignment with my needs? Does this feel like it's supportive for me and making a decision from that place? Right?
Amanda Testa (11:04):
Because it is the desires are such a map for what we want. And so I always love to start with that when I'm working with clients, because desires are such a goalpost, just such a little pebbles upon our path, so to speak. And so the more you're connected to 'em the more, it's easier to tune into what you want. And, and honestly, I get it like before you can do that, you really have to know like, what I want is important. My needs matter. I matter, my needs are important. My boundaries are important. I deserve to care for myself. I deserve to have what I want. Right. <affirmative> and that is a process in itself as well. Right. We can all have wounds around these things, but I just love, love, love that potential of just being like, letting this be your permission slip to be like, okay, what are all the things that I've heard that I should be doing that I'm like, I don't wanna do that.
Amanda Testa (11:56):
Nope. Doesn't feel good to me. I'm done with that. <Laugh> how can I tune into what I do want, how can I follow that whim more often than not because yes, it might not be realistic to follow every single whim that you have, but you could look into, you know, say my whim is that I wanna go rent a hotel room by myself for a week. Well, that's probably not realistic, but maybe I do need to take two hours and go take a walk with my dog. Or maybe I need to take two hours and just go be by myself <laugh> and wander around, you know, nature or go be with a friend or maybe I just need to make more space to have some breaths that I it's all my own space maybe at that was maybe as I lock myself in the bathroom for 10 minutes, twice a day and ignore whatever's happening outside that door and just let it be luscious.
Amanda Testa (12:46):
Let it be nourishing. Let it be just for me, really just up all this space, just for me, I get to have all this 10 minutes just for me. And it feels so good. Maybe it's two minutes. Maybe that's all you got, but when you can really expand on that experience, like, ah, how does it feel to have all this time, man? I'm just noticing. Cause I feel into this luxury of time to myself, I just feel my chest just opens up a little bit and I notice, I feel, I feel so much lighter in my shoulders. Like I feel like I'm sitting up straighter and I just love envisioning this vast nothingness. It's like, I'm looking at a vast open landscape or even just like a whiteboard that's just clean. There's nothing on it. Oh, the absence of anything thing to do, but just be. It's so good.
Amanda Testa (13:43):
I'm just gonna sit in that and let it feel good. It's nourishing. Oh, even this moment, just noticing how much I need that right now. Then am I allowing myself to receive it? Can I let it in just a little more? Or does that feel too hard? And if so, that's okay. Like what feels doable? What feels like a doable amount to let in today? Hmm. I'm just enjoying luxuriating in this time. And if that feels resonant for you to enjoy it withme I'll invite you to do so, or maybe noticing it, this might feel hard for you, like get on with that lady. <Laugh> whatever you're experiencing is okay.
Amanda Testa (14:50):
And I'm just taking a breath or two here and I'm just gonna slowly bring myself back and think, wow, that was just maybe like two minutes and I feel worlds differently than I did before. So maybe that wasn't a need that you had, but if there is a need that you have, how can you find a way to put yourself in that experience and let your body experience that? Like I just even feel refreshed and rejuvenated just from that two minutes. So it's amazing how, and we can just be with what is showing up for us and giving ourselves permission to do that. Things can shift around us. Right. And so just for fun and just for, for the sake of it, I'm wondering if you were to do more of what you wanted over the next few days, what might you do?
Amanda Testa (15:33):
What might you say yes to? What might you say no to, and can, could it be interesting to play around with a, with a softer voice, right? Not having a mean ole boss talking to you, but what if there's like a softer voice, like a friendly voice, like a loving, caring voice. What might that look like? Who might sound like, or what could it be like a loving, warm, accepting, forgiving, loving guide who just accepts you exactly as you are and is offering you support. How might that voice talk to you and perhaps noticing maybe what is something that you, you are wanting to do that you maybe are a little harsh on yourself about how might you invite a more kind tone to that?
Amanda Testa (16:49):
Hmm. And this can show up in so many areas of our lives, right? In all the areas, where are you trying to please, or trying to push yourself beyond what feels right. And how could you find perhaps a more doable way to approach it? What feels fun? How can, how could it feel exciting to explore this? How could it feel doable? How could it feel inviting? How can it feel yummy? Just letting those be little, little nuggets for you to digest as they resonate, take what resonates and leave. What doesn't, which just having fun, letting this be your permission, slip, to just have tune in and, and give yourself what you need, whatever that looks like in some,
Speaker 2 (17:49):
In some way over the next four days. And I'd love to hear how it goes for you. So please feel free to let me know. You can send me an email and just keep me posted amanda@amandatesta.com. And I'm sending you so much love as you move into this week and we will see you next week.
Amanda Testa (00:04):
Hello, this is your host Amanda Testa. And in today's podcast, I really want this to be a permission slip for you to do whatever the fuck you want to do. I just saw a post from a friend of mine. It was so inspiring to me because I feel like we push ourselves so hard sometimes. And I know for myself, I definitely am still recovering from the type A overachiever type of personality that I was raised to think was the end all be all. And I read this beautiful post from one of my Instagram friends. We actually met through a joint program we were doing with Kelly Diels, who I highly recommend her work. I love Kelly Diels. Anyways, her name is Jane Charlesworth and here is the post. You can follow her on Instagram at @Jane.Charlesworth this quote was just so great because I thought it is resonant, right?
Amanda Testa (01:10):
So this especially can pertain to you if you're an entrepreneur. But I think in any, in any instance, it's still important. We talk all the time about being our own bosses, but what if you don't need a boss at all? What if we ditch the whole idea of bosses, right? Because when you think of the word boss, what comes to mind for you? I mean, I am very grateful to have had an amazing, have had amazing bosses in my career. So I have a really good lived experience in which to, to pull from. And that's not the case for everyone. Cause I think if you think about boss, boss, oftentimes all kinds of things can come up. Right? Like bossy. What does that mean? It means like demanding, it means,ushort, it means,ucould possibly be someone who's taking advantage of you or,uI just think of a nine to five, remember how horrible that boss was or just how bosses can sometimes just be really hard on people.
Amanda Testa (02:07):
And what about we just let go of that word and try something different. Right. And so I was thinking about that and I was like, God, that is so true. Right? How hard can we be on ourselves about everything, right? Like I wanna be a good mom or I wanna go be a good parent or I wanna be a good partner. I wanna be a good friend. I wanna be good at my business. I wanna be good at my job. I wanna do all these things. And so we implement these really militant rules upon ourselves sometimes, which is actually gonna, oftentimes does the opposite of what we want it to do. Right. When we're so hard on ourselves. And we're so unflexible with ourselves, it can also stop us from really being in charge of our own clarity and choice and you know, feeling like we've gotta follow someone else's guidance all the time or that we don't know.
Amanda Testa (02:58):
And I really do believe we do know we have so much wisdom. Oftentimes we've just been disconnected from that in our own lives. And so how do we reconnect to our own intuition, our own ways? How do we create more clarity and choice with our lives? Right? Because oftentimes when we have had these experiences in our, where we have, I mean, it's, let's just be honest. I live in the us and it's a really big part of our culture is like you're raised to be successful, be the best make A's do good in school, do all the activities. So you can get into a good college, get into a good college, make good grades, get a good job, make money, all the things right. Have a family or don't. Ubut I feel like we gotta open up our definition of what success means and what that looks like and what,ua happy life looks like.
Amanda Testa (03:49):
Cuz it can look a million different ways. It doesn't have to look like we think it does. What if you're just happy with the way things are in your life. That is awesome. What if you can just say, you know what, I'm gonna give myself permission to enjoy whatever the I want for the next four days. Just right now, just make that decision. Guess what? For the next four days I'm gonna do what I wanna do. <Laugh> within reason, of course, you know? Right. you don't wanna hurt anyone. You want it to be in the highest good of all beings. Right. But I think of that, right? Because oftentimes, and this really, I love this one archetype from the ReBloom body of work and I'm also a certified Rebloom trauma resolution coach. That's from the work of Rachael Maddox and she has developed these seven archetypes, but they really, the intention is, is that as you grow back to your full in bloom self, where you are feeling worthy, where you have sovereign over your own experience, where you feel like you can fully express yourself, where you feel like you can trust your intuition, you have clarity, you have choice, you feel vital, you feel empowered, you know that you belong to yourself to this world, to, to your own being right.
Amanda Testa (04:52):
You can enjoy the pleasures of life and you can co-create to bring goodness to all. I love the Sage because really that's really around clarity and choice, having a clear sense of who you are, what you know, what you want and what your options are. You make decisions from a place of alignment with your values, right? Your embodied wisdom and your discernment. You're the validator of your experiences. You also seek healthy interpersonal validation, mirroring and reassurance, and you trust your experiences as true. You know, that your feelings, perspectives, and opinions matter, your clarity, empowers healthy choices. I feel like that's such a huge permission slip of knowing who you are, what you want. And you make decisions from that place from a place of alignment. And oftentimes in our lives, there are ways that we can have traumatic imprints from being our true number one manipulation control, right?
Amanda Testa (05:47):
Being Gaslight being denied, your experiences, being lied to, you know, having things, withhold it from you being shamed, you know, being monitored, like having super strict parents, perhaps like we, that constantly monitor everything that you did or, you know, having what you do be based on, you know, you be a certain way to get affection or feeling like your affection was withdrawn. If you weren't a certain way, you know, feeling guilt or you know, a lot of blaming feeling like you weren't listened to feeling that you were manipulated that you were controlled, right? Those that is the way that we can be have these imprints that affect how we show up. And it can show up in a couple of ways, right? One of the ways is kind of the hypo response, which is more of kind of feeling confused, feeling like you're blindly, following people, blindly trusting others constantly looking to be validated from others.
Amanda Testa (06:41):
Crippling self-doubt lack of personal moral code, right? You, you feel you're very drawn possibly to charismatic leaders or desire to be saved by someone who knows what's going on really not trusting your own own experience. And then the hyperresponsiveness is being hypervigilant, right? Not knowing who you can trust, feeling extremely skeptical about everything. You know, assuming that others are trying to just pull something over on you feeling really stubborn about doing things your own way. If you're being, being very controlling yourself, trying to control situations trying to control relationships playing games with people emotionally, right? Feeling like you are making up these stories of while things are out to get you, or, you know, really feeling hyper guarded, maybe isolating yourself because of fear. So, you know, these are ways that we can these traumatic imprints that we experience in our lives can show up in really stand in the way of our feelings of clarity, of feelings of choice.
Amanda Testa (07:44):
And so this is where we can do things to strengthen that Sage within us, right? Tuning in to what is your truth, even knowing what that is, what is it that you want, right? What are the boundaries that you need to support yourself? How can you express what you need? How can you create the environment that supports you in tuning into what it is you need, and then being able to make choices and take actions that are in alignment with what you need with your truth, right? Really honoring your own values, your own morality, your own ethics and sharing your truth and ways that can be heard that can be received.
Amanda Testa (08:28):
Right? So really knowing that you can trust your experience, you can trust what you are experiencing in your life to be true. You can trust your own knowledge, that it will guide you to what supports you. Right? You can trust your desires because they really are little guideposts on your path, right? What you want following those desires can really give you so much information about, is this really what I want? Or is it not, right? You, you tune into what you want and you, I love doing the exercise just for like 10 minutes, setting a timer and writing down all your desires. What is it that you want? What is it that I want? What is it that I want? And really just letting yourself go with that exercise. Because oftentimes when you do that, you can tune into what's beneath the wants, right? What is it that you truly need?
Amanda Testa (09:21):
And so you know, maybe it's, you know, I want a vacation or I want to have more money or I want to have a better relationship, or I wanna go to dinner with a friend or blah, blah, blah. Right. You're just writing down all the things you want. I wanna trip to Tahiti, digging in a little deeper about what's beneath that, right? So maybe if you're noticing a lot of travel or wanting to escape, like, what is it that you perhaps there are some needs that you're not speaking, right? Maybe you need to create more boundaries for yourself. So you can feel less burdened that you can feel less overwhelmed. Maybe you need to look in to see like what's beneath that. Right?
Amanda Testa (10:00):
So if there's a lot of escapism, then maybe it's, there's something that you need with regards to that, you know, needs. You're not letting yourself have not giving yourself the time and space to meet your needs. And granted all these things take time and practice. So it can be challenging to even tune into what you want. So many times I work with people who have no clue what they want, or it's so hard for them to connect to their desires because really we, we aren't often taught that, right. We're often taught, we please. We do, what's told of us. We do. What's asked of us, not whatever the we wanna do. <Laugh> and in some ways you wanna just follow that whim. Like what would this do for me? If I did just take singing lessons, for example, I really wanna take some singing lessons.
Amanda Testa (10:35):
I wanna have fun expressing myself more. So take singing lessons and see how that works out for you. Right. If it's loving it, if you're loving it, if you're feeling like you're, you're expressing yourself, you're, you're, you're, you're getting what you need from it. Then that's a great thing, right. Or maybe you try it and you're like, yeah, Nope, not for me. See, this is how we know what is our path and what is not by trying things and determining, does this feel in alignment with my needs? Does this feel like it's supportive for me and making a decision from that place? Right?
Amanda Testa (11:04):
Because it is the desires are such a map for what we want. And so I always love to start with that when I'm working with clients, because desires are such a goalpost, just such a little pebbles upon our path, so to speak. And so the more you're connected to 'em the more, it's easier to tune into what you want. And, and honestly, I get it like before you can do that, you really have to know like, what I want is important. My needs matter. I matter, my needs are important. My boundaries are important. I deserve to care for myself. I deserve to have what I want. Right. <affirmative> and that is a process in itself as well. Right. We can all have wounds around these things, but I just love, love, love that potential of just being like, letting this be your permission slip to be like, okay, what are all the things that I've heard that I should be doing that I'm like, I don't wanna do that.
Amanda Testa (11:56):
Nope. Doesn't feel good to me. I'm done with that. <Laugh> how can I tune into what I do want, how can I follow that whim more often than not because yes, it might not be realistic to follow every single whim that you have, but you could look into, you know, say my whim is that I wanna go rent a hotel room by myself for a week. Well, that's probably not realistic, but maybe I do need to take two hours and go take a walk with my dog. Or maybe I need to take two hours and just go be by myself <laugh> and wander around, you know, nature or go be with a friend or maybe I just need to make more space to have some breaths that I it's all my own space maybe at that was maybe as I lock myself in the bathroom for 10 minutes, twice a day and ignore whatever's happening outside that door and just let it be luscious.
Amanda Testa (12:46):
Let it be nourishing. Let it be just for me, really just up all this space, just for me, I get to have all this 10 minutes just for me. And it feels so good. Maybe it's two minutes. Maybe that's all you got, but when you can really expand on that experience, like, ah, how does it feel to have all this time, man? I'm just noticing. Cause I feel into this luxury of time to myself, I just feel my chest just opens up a little bit and I notice, I feel, I feel so much lighter in my shoulders. Like I feel like I'm sitting up straighter and I just love envisioning this vast nothingness. It's like, I'm looking at a vast open landscape or even just like a whiteboard that's just clean. There's nothing on it. Oh, the absence of anything thing to do, but just be. It's so good.
Amanda Testa (13:43):
I'm just gonna sit in that and let it feel good. It's nourishing. Oh, even this moment, just noticing how much I need that right now. Then am I allowing myself to receive it? Can I let it in just a little more? Or does that feel too hard? And if so, that's okay. Like what feels doable? What feels like a doable amount to let in today? Hmm. I'm just enjoying luxuriating in this time. And if that feels resonant for you to enjoy it withme I'll invite you to do so, or maybe noticing it, this might feel hard for you, like get on with that lady. <Laugh> whatever you're experiencing is okay.
Amanda Testa (14:50):
And I'm just taking a breath or two here and I'm just gonna slowly bring myself back and think, wow, that was just maybe like two minutes and I feel worlds differently than I did before. So maybe that wasn't a need that you had, but if there is a need that you have, how can you find a way to put yourself in that experience and let your body experience that? Like I just even feel refreshed and rejuvenated just from that two minutes. So it's amazing how, and we can just be with what is showing up for us and giving ourselves permission to do that. Things can shift around us. Right. And so just for fun and just for, for the sake of it, I'm wondering if you were to do more of what you wanted over the next few days, what might you do?
Amanda Testa (15:33):
What might you say yes to? What might you say no to, and can, could it be interesting to play around with a, with a softer voice, right? Not having a mean ole boss talking to you, but what if there's like a softer voice, like a friendly voice, like a loving, caring voice. What might that look like? Who might sound like, or what could it be like a loving, warm, accepting, forgiving, loving guide who just accepts you exactly as you are and is offering you support. How might that voice talk to you and perhaps noticing maybe what is something that you, you are wanting to do that you maybe are a little harsh on yourself about how might you invite a more kind tone to that?
Amanda Testa (16:49):
Hmm. And this can show up in so many areas of our lives, right? In all the areas, where are you trying to please, or trying to push yourself beyond what feels right. And how could you find perhaps a more doable way to approach it? What feels fun? How can, how could it feel exciting to explore this? How could it feel doable? How could it feel inviting? How can it feel yummy? Just letting those be little, little nuggets for you to digest as they resonate, take what resonates and leave. What doesn't, which just having fun, letting this be your permission, slip, to just have tune in and, and give yourself what you need, whatever that looks like in some,
Speaker 2 (17:49):
In some way over the next four days. And I'd love to hear how it goes for you. So please feel free to let me know. You can send me an email and just keep me posted amanda@amandatesta.com. And I'm sending you so much love as you move into this week and we will see you next week.
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