With Amanda Testa 

✨ Can You Really Half-Ass Your Way to a Better Sex Life? (Surprisingly...Yes.)

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by all the advice about what you should be doing to keep your relationship hot, your body youthful, and your sex life thriving—you are not alone.

Especially in midlife, the messages pile up fast:

• Plan the perfect date nights!
• Eat 200 grams of protein!
• Communicate more!
• Look younger!
• Try that new position / that new toy / that new supplement!

It’s enough to make even the most devoted woman feel like intimacy has become yet another exhausting to-do list item.

Here’s the truth no one tells you:

You don't need to overhaul your life to reignite your love life.

You can "half-ass" your way there—and it's actually the smarter, more sustainable way.

And in this week’s podcast, you’ll discover why.

✨ Why Perfectionism Kills Connection

The couples I work with are often brilliant, high-achieving, committed.

They can run businesses, raise children, keep all the plates spinning.

But when it comes to intimacy?
That same perfectionistic energy often kills desire before it even starts.

• They overthink every interaction.
• They judge themselves and each other.
• They wait until everything is "perfect"—the house clean, the kids occupied, the to-do list complete.

And guess what?
That moment never arrives.

Because life is messy.
Bodies are messy.
Connection is messy.

When we demand perfection in intimacy, we end up pushing each other away—or giving up altogether.

✨ How Small, Imperfect Moves Create Big Sparks

The real secret to lasting intimacy?
Not grand gestures.
Not Instagram-worthy vacations.

It’s tiny, imperfect moments of connection, repeated over time.

• A lingering touch on the shoulder while passing in the kitchen.
• A five-second kiss instead of a rushed goodbye.
• A whispered, "I miss you," even when it feels vulnerable.
• A willingness to laugh when awkwardness creeps in.

These are the sacred "half-assed" rituals that change everything over time.

When you stop pressuring connection to be perfect and allow it to be real—that’s when desire sneaks back in.

That’s when you start feeling like lovers again, not just roommates sharing a calendar.

✨ Why "Trying Less" Sometimes Awakens So Much More

When you stop striving for a fantasy version of intimacy,

you open the door to authentic, messy, magical reconnection.

You stop performing.
You start being.

And from that place of being—being soft, being curious, being human—your relationship can breathe again.

Intimacy doesn’t thrive on pressure.
It thrives on presence.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’re craving deeper connection—emotionally, energetically, and erotically—but you're tired of trying so hard and still feeling so far away…

I’d love to invite you into a different conversation.

One where you don't have to fix yourself.
One where you don't have to perform.
One where you get to come back to yourself, and to your partner, from a place of genuine turn-on.

✨ I offer a limited number of complimentary Reignite Your Feminine Fire calls each month.

On this call, we’ll explore:

• What’s really going on underneath the disconnection
• What your body and soul are craving now
• Whether my private mentorship is the just the support you’ve been waiting for

🌹 Click here to book your call.

You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to be willing to take one beautiful, messy, heart-led step.

I’m here to walk with you.

With so much love,
Amanda

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My name is Amanda Testa, and I'm a Sex, Love, and Relationship Expert + Trauma Resolution Guide.

My goal is to support you to heal your relationship to your sexuality so you can eliminate shame and guilt, own your sexy confidence, feel like a Goddess/Goddex in your skin, and have the deeply connected relationships you desire.

My unique proven process, The Feminine Fire Method™ combines the latest in neuroscience and somatic healing with ancient practices to facilitate rapid and lasting transformation. 
I'm also a Mama to a spunky 12 year old,  Wife to my sexy hubs, and lover of outdoor adventure and live music. 


I believe deep in my soul is that sexuality is the missing key in personal growth and development. 

I believe your sexuality and sexual energy fuels your creativity, confidence, and power. It is a vital part of your holistic health and vitality.

When we own our sexual power our pleasure and creativity flourishes.  Our confidence and body image soars.

Our relationships deepen.

And when you can connect to that power in yourself, it’s life-changing.

If you’ve been thinking about it, maybe we should talk! Click to book a free call to see if we’re a fit.

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